Why Sisters in Law?

September 2nd, 2009

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Around two years ago I had a succession of phone calls from friends: one who was upset about the family’s proposed Christmas arrangements, another talking about her divorce and another was trying to sort out problems with an elderly parent. Sisters-in-law featured strongly in all of them, either as part of the support system or the problem. It’s the women who glue a family together, and, as I’ve got no sisters, (just three brothers), for me, that means sisters-in-law. But we are all very different – ages, professions, backgrounds, family customs…and so are everyone else’s.

I thought about how important sisters-in-law are in a family, and realised that one side effect of divorce that is rarely mentioned is that you are forced to change your sister-in-law. Just as you have come to genuinely love a woman who was completely strange to you when you first met her, then suddenly you’re expected to ditch her and embrace someone new. You don’t have any choice in the matter, and the rest of the family, particularly your brother or your husband’s brother, may even consider you unreasonable if you don’t instantly warm to her.

I knew there was a novel in the topic of sisters-in-law and divorce, and everyone I spoke to responded so powerfully and immediately that I couldn’t wait to write it. My editor at Sphere, Joanne Dickinson, says that every time she brought it to a meeting, everyone stopped talking about publishing and started talking about their sisters-in-law instead. I found the same thing when I was writing it, and there was always a certain amount of competition as to whose was the troublesome sister-in-law and who was the great support – the wife’s sister or the husband’s. Although the men usually beat a strategic retreat to their equivalent of the potting shed after a few beady glances from their wives. I think that possibly the only reason why male comedians use mothers-in-law as a stock joke, but are curiously silent on the issue of sisters-in-law is probably because they’re far too frightened of their wives’ sisters and their brothers’ wives to take them on.

Anyway, it’s been a sadly neglected literary topic: since the deliciously greedy Fanny Dashwood in Jane Austen’s Sense & Sensibility, who persuades her husband that his half-sisters don’t need any money from their father’s estate and Natasha who is the driving destructive force in Chekhov’s Three Sisters, there hasn’t been a lot written about this pivotal relationship in a family, so this is an attempt to redress the balance (and the only time I will ever, ever be able to compare myself to Chekhov).

I hope you enjoy it, and I’d love to hear any comments you’d like to leave on this website.

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  1. Julie Says:

    July 10th, 2010 at 7:32 pm

    I have just finished reading Sisters in Law and could not put it down, it was gripping. I bought it at a local charity shop and what a find it was – in beautiful condition – and is now in pride of place on my new bookshelf, ready to be loaned out to only very ‘special’ friends who I know will look after it and return it in the pristine condition I bought it in.

    However, I am puzzled. Why does the synopsis on the back cover refer to the three sisters-in-law as Kate, Helen and Olivia? The character is Heather, not Helen, briefly referred towards the end of the book as Heaven, but not Helen. All the way through I kept wondering if Heather’s character would be replaced by another of Jack’s conquests, called Helen, but this was not the case. Please can you enlighten me as I am having sleepless nights over this!

  2. Nina Bell Says:

    January 12th, 2011 at 11:58 am

    I’m so sorry to be so late to responding to this – it’s me not being very clever about how I manage my website. But thank you for your comments and I’m so sorry about the Heather/Helen issue. Heather was called Helen until quite late on in the writing process, and when I changed her name, I forgot to change the back cover. It wasn’t noticed until the book came out. One of those glitches, but I’m sorry if it spoiled your enjoyment. with best wishes Nina Bell

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